How do I get my boyfriend to be more like a man?

My boyfriend in my experience feels that anger and negative feelings is the only way to express his "manliness" I know he likes me, we smile and laugh together and he *cringes* tickles me enough to make me numb. but how does he become the man that is inside of him, in a positive way? He doesn't have a job right now and that's okay with me, We are making it financially, but all we do is just hang out at home or go out occasionally. is that the problem? there is no in our relationship at all any more, and he is not cuddly. He only cuddled me when I asked him to for hours when we first got together. then as time went by we grew closer and have sacrificed true romance for friendship.??? Is tat a sign of a good relationship or should I be wary?